TJOY44: Wisdom Nuggets
God dropped these in my spirit in the wee hours of the morning and I had to share them with you hot off the presses. I pray that it blesses your spirit and you find what you need in them - direction, clarity, aha, revelation, confirmation.
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Tonia: Certain levels of intimacy should be reserved for the confines of marriage.
You want a ring, stop giving husband privileges when he is just a boyfriend, especially if you haven’t even committed to being in a relationship, and y’all are just sex buddies.
You need to get your rest. Don’t be up all night on the phone with them or hanging out with them all hours of the night. If you always say yes, it will be an issue when you start to say no. Loose boundaries lead to heartbreak and heartache. And too much access will cause you to devalue the real thing when it does come along.
Too much digital interaction lessens your physical and intimate interaction with the people right in front of you.
You are giving your all to a man that could be here today and gone tomorrow. Then, you are left not knowing who you are and devastated because it wasn’t being reciprocated. You were too infatuated to notice.
You matter. You need boundaries and you need to communicate them and stick to them. The man doesn’t dictate your value. How much you do for him doesn’t dictate your value. God does!
Seek Him first. Give Him your all. Then, the rest will follow. Even with your kids. They are human. One day, they will make their own decisions, and live their own lives. If you put your all into them, who will you be and what will you do when they leave?
A man’s opinion holds a lot of weight in the eyes of a woman, in the eyes of his spouse and the eyes of his children. His words can build up or cause a great deal of damage that can affect a person for a lifetime. That is why your identity must be in Christ, not in a man, or your children, or anyone else. God is the same yesterday, today and forever. He will love you unconditionally in spite of your flaws, and be gentleman enough to not leave you the same way that He found you.
We have an arsenal of things to choose from that God has given us, we have to be EQUIPPED with the word so when - not if - the enemy comes, we can fight back with the word of God.
If there are people in your life who aren’t pushing you higher or deeper in God, limit their access in your life. The level of intimacy some of these kids are pursuing at these young ages is too much too soon. Their young minds can’t handle it. Just because they have access to lots of information, doesn’t mean they have the maturity to handle it and the responsibility that comes along with it.
